I quite often hear man say that they just don’t understand women. I think that is true in some cases, but in some cases, men are just not paying attention. Because paying attention is one of the keys to understand your wife/girlfriend.

A friend of mine told me that she told her husband that she can provide for herself, she can take care of her own kids, she can be successful at anything that she puts her mind to. The ONLY thing she needs from him was to keep her HEART happy. Wow, I never even thought of it in that way! I quite often experience that men battle with the concept of women being able to” look after themselves”. It is almost as if they love the idea (being a metro man after all) and hate it at the same time!

But think about it, what if your only “job” as a man was to keep your partner happy? Her heart, to be more specifically. Wouldn’t that be much easier than trying to understand her? It is a game changer, you can only concentrate on what makes her HAPPY, you don’t have to worry about what upsets her anymore, you don’t have to think about what you need to do to be the perfect partner, you ONLY have to ensure that she is happy! Game over!

While you are absorbing that thought, let me give you a few ideas. Do you know what she likes? Her favourite food, sweets, desert, even colour? Do you know what she does when she is feeling ill, what she enjoys for “me” time? How about what she likes between the sheets? Yes, you MAY actually ask her all those questions and she will give you the answers. But (yes there is a but) it would even be better if you don’t ask and just pay attention. When you see her enjoying a certain food, ask: “is that your favourite”, when she choose a dress, ask if she likes the colour, etc. Get the idea? Same result, different approach.

There are so many ways to find out what works in relationships and what doesn’t. I enjoy reading books about love language (get it, you would be surprised how easy it seems after reading that book). I also enjoy watching videos on YouTube as there are so many out there trying to help couples to build better relationships. Find what would work for you and try it. The investment that you make into your relationship is most rewarding.

I present a seminar called “Chiefs and Indians”, I am going to help you go to the NEXT level of being the BEST MAN she can have. But not only for her, for you too. The seminar (which would also be available shortly as a webinar) would give you insight to what women really want from you as a man, it will provide you with relationship building tools, tell you some sexually intelligence secrets, help you to understand your role as the “Indian” in your family and also gives valuable advise on how to cultivate your partner. Feel free to contact me should you be interested to move your relationship to all of these levels.

Until you have done the seminar with me, start somewhere so long! Start by finding out what it is that makes her heart happy. That would already put you ahead of the game!

Until we meet at the seminar, webinar or in person, good luck! If you are trying this simple concept, please give us updates in the comments section of this blog.

If you are interest in the next seminar, get in touch with me.

Antoinette Venter, ActionCOACH Business Coach
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